Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

Saturday, January 29, 2011

The Key To Building Good Relationships

Good and healthy relationships are an important part of human life. Relationships usually develop when individuals realize that differences make life exciting. Different types of relationships are friendships, romances, work and school related connections and familial ties. Good relationships grow when people consider each other as partners in life and not see them in terms of money, property or anything else that they are obsessed with.

Healthy relationships prosper only in a gradual manner. It takes time and energy for partners to realize each other. Relationships grow and change over time. Therefore it is important that people acquire the skills that keep their relationships happy and healthy. Relationships flourish into true and loving bonds when people choose to share rather than change each other.

There are no formal programs that teach us about building good relationships. It is something that one picks up by watching others, normally parents or anyone in the immediate family. But, today many youngsters do not want to follow in their parents-footsteps.

Quite a few factors are involved in building good relationships. An important thing in a relationship is good friendship. Good relationships are truly friendships. Willingness to talk through things and to share positive and negative feelings with each other, all contribute to healthy relationships. It is important to avoid jealousy, possessiveness and competition, since they reflect individual fears and insecurities.

To build a healthy marital relationship, it is good to show interest in your partner's feelings and dreams. A person must take responsibility for his actions and feelings, and encourage his partner to do the same. The next important thing is "establishing trust". All relationships survive on trust. It is essential to express trust in your partner constantly.
To keep a good relationship with someone at work, you should understand that he is a person who deserves to be treated with admiration and courtesy. It is wiser to avoid making comments about him. One has to consider a colleague as an equal. This is a primary building block for healthy relationships.
A good and healthy relationship is worth any price. Yet it cannot be purchased with currency. Sensible people spend time to develop good friendships steadily, and maintain a vigilant watch so that they do not weaken in course of time.
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Thursday, December 9, 2010

Relationships and Christian Teens: What You Need to Know

Christian teens form all kinds of relationships. From friendships to dating, these are the years that Christian teens start building ties outside of the family. While these relationships are an exciting time for Christian teens, they also come with their own issues and hazards. Suddenly the issues of sex and boundaries starts to arise, and teens find themselves having to choose sides on "hot button" topics like homosexuality and abortion. There is a lot of growing to do in all aspects of relationships, and having Biblical and Christian guidance is essential.

Friendship is the foundation of any good relationship. Whether you are looking to make friends or keep the ones you have, friendship is important in any Christian teen's life. This is also why Christian teens need to work at keeping their friendships strong. Think of the traits that are important in any relationship like honesty and trust, and they apply to your friends. Avoiding pitfalls like gossip and lying go a long way in building friendships that last a lifetime.
 

Dating

Dating is the part of many Christian teens' lives. Whether you are choosing not to date or looking to set boundaries in your dating relationships, there is a lot to consider when you take a relationship to the next step beyond friendship. Knowing what you want from a dating relationship and finding ways to resist temptation will allow you to build a productive and Christian dating relationship.

Sex

The Bible covers sex quite a bit, and for good reason. Sex is a beautiful thing meant to be experienced by a married couple. Yet a lot of teens are already having sex, not realizing the emotional and physical consequences. Other Christian teens are not having sexual intercourse, but doing everything but "going all the way." This brings up the question, "How far is too far?" Knowing what the Bible says about sex and understanding the lies teens tell themselves about sex can help you remain abstinent and focus on purity.

"Hot Button" Items

There is a lot of controversy when it comes to Christian teens and relationships. For some Christian teens hot button items like homosexuality, masturbation, and abortion are clear cut sins. Other Christian teens see "shades of gray" in the Bible scriptures. However, understanding the arguments on both sides will help you remain strong in your own faith.

10 Lies Christian Teens Tell Themselves About Sex, Dating,and How Far Is Too Far

So, how far is too far? Is that a valid question to ask? In a world where sex is seen in every medium and condoms are being handed out in schools, what is a Christian teen to do when confronted with conflicting advice about what constitutes a sexual activity or abstinence? Here are the top 10 lies Christian teens tell themselves when it comes to answering the question, "How far is too far?"

1. Everybody Does It

Everybody? No. Not everybody is having sex. While the media and people in school may make it seem like everyone is having sex, there are just as many Christian teens (and non-Christians, too) waiting until marriage. Doing something just because everyone else is doing it is just giving into peer pressure. It takes a stronger person, or a person backed up by the strength of God, to resist temptation. When you stand up to peer pressure you are actually saving yourself from committing sin while being a good Christian witness to other teens around you.

2. It's No Big Deal

Sex is a big deal. Ask any Christian teen who struggles with having had sex before. There are a lot of emotions and spiritual struggles that come from having had sex outside of marriage. It is one of the reasons God placed such an emphasis on sex and relationships in the Bible. Sex is a beautiful act that comes out of the marriage covenant, and it means more than just an action.

3. Virginity is a State of Mind

Some people use the term "technical virgin" when describing their sexual status. Usually this means that the person has not had a sexual act that involved penetration. Virginity is more than that. Virginity is not a state of mind, but it is the conscious choice to not involve oneself in sexual acts until after marriage. Usually this excuse is used if someone wants to justify participating in sexual activity.

4. Sex and Love are the Same Thing

Sex and love are very different, but they are meant to complement one another. If you are in love it does not mean you should have sex. Sex is an act. Love is an emotion. They are very different, and it can be dangerous to mix them up. You should never feel like you have to have sex with someone just because you want to show them you love them. There are plenty of non-sexual ways to show your love to someone.

5. Sex is a Minor Sin

Pre-marital sex is sin. Sin is sin. However, it is dangerous to think that sex is a minor or equal sin to all others, because it can put you in a frame of mind to make bad choices. Sexual sin is still a defiance of God, and no sin is acceptable to God. Yes, you can be forgiven, but you will have to live with the sin you have committed, which can be difficult if you are not prepared to deal with sex emotionally.

6. Oral Sex Isn't Really Sex

Oral sex is a sexual act. Just because Christian teens are not having sex in the textbook fashion, it is still a sexual act that bonds a man and a woman together.

7. Third Base Isn't a Big Deal

Third base, also known as "heavy petting," is a big deal, because it can lead to other things. Not only is it a form of sexual action, but it can lead to sexual intercourse. It is very easy for Christian teens to get caught up in the moment and forget about any desire to stay abstinent. Sin is very tempting, and it does not always come with warning or stop signs. Going to Third Base can be a danger zone.

8. My Will Can Overcome Any Temptation

God's will can overcome any temptation. If you feel you have the strength alone to conquer any temptation, you are setting yourself up for trouble. Man is known for falling into sin, especially when there is an overconfidence in the self. Christian teens need to keep their eyes on God, and allow God to help set boundaries so they can resist the temptation. The Bible is full of helpful advice when it comes to coping with temptation, and it can be a useful tool.

9. Watching Porn or Masturbating is Less of a Sin Than Having Sex

A lot of people believe that pornography and masturbation are helpful in preventing a person from having sex. However, having sex is not just about the act, but it is about the frame of mind. If you have lust in your heart while you are watching pornographic movies or masturbating, then there is sin there.

10. I've Already Had Sex, So It's Too Late for Me

It is never too late. While the idea of "born-again virgin" may seem a little like "technical virgin," it is not the same thing. Many Christian teens that have already had sex choose to act as if they have never had sex and vow to wait until marriage. Having sex is not the end of the world. God is very forgiving, and He smiles at those who return to Him with a desire to do His will. While the temptation for someone who has had sex can be even stronger than the virgin, it can be overcome with God's help. God is waiting to welcome you with open arms.

Monday, November 22, 2010

Relationship Breaking Up

Teenage relationship break up is not always easy, matter of fact most break ups are not easy as a young person as well as an older person however as an old person they may have experiences of break up.
For many teenage, break up can have a very lasting effect on your future life and relationships with others.

Do not have a foundation
It is new for many teenagers to have a relationship; you do not have a foundation of breaking up, it is your first time in a new relationship, it may have been already awkward just to have a relationship.
For teenagers to be in a relationship not knowing what is ask of you is difficult, how to behave may be difficult because of your family background, you may come from abusive or dysfunctional family and may not realize it.

Right tools for breaking up
Because teenagers are now starting to learn about themselves and how to deal with the demands of society, like school and responsibility it may sometimes be difficult for you to have the right tools for breaking up.
Breaking up is difficult for teenagers because you may not know what you are looking for in relationship and breaking up may touch some emotional feelings that is not solve from your past and your home life.
Your job is to learn from it, such as did you trust in yourself, did you put yourself first, did you respect yourself and your limits during the relationship, and did you listen to your inner voice.
When teenagers break up, your mood may change and you may stay more at home or more to yourself.

Support you
Having a relationship with your parent or an adult figure that you can share with them and the difficulties you are going through can help you with the days ahead, they can be their to support you.
As a teenager you need to understand that it is alright to feel sad, lonely depress during a break up and that it does not say anything about you as a person only that it is a stage of your life and it may happen again before you meet the right person.

Feelings of loss
The difficult moments will eventually pass, it is important that you do not deny your feelings of loss, you may even blame yourself and feel you could of done something better, it is alright to feel this way, it will pass.

Getting involve
Your job is to learn from it, such as did you trust in yourself, did you put yourself first, did you respect yourself and your limits.
Get involve when you can with friends; allow them to support you by talking out your feelings.

Getting involve in sports will help you to change your mind and burn of some of the energy that would be focus on pain and sadness.

Conclusion:Many people pass through a teenage relationship break up and most people live through it to find happiness later on for this is part of the process in the learning experience of becoming an adult.